1/25/2024 0 Comments Arranged marriage![]() ![]() Someone posing, unsmiling, that is supposed to symbolize a potential bride or groom’s merits and seriousness. Child marriage, yes, but also dowry deaths and female infanticide and sexual assault.Īrranged marriage ultimately becomes something borne out of a visual medium: think picture brides. Still, India and the subcontinent remain in the news - so much violence and oppression against women. Harris to the nation’s second highest position. And India had its first female prime minister, Indira Gandhi, decades before the purported democratic ideal, The United States, fielded Kamala D. Here is a nation famous for worshiping female deities such as Durga and Kali, tongues out, weapons in hand. In India, where my ancestral family originates, it is complicated. Most of the time, in my experience with my family and friends and acquaintances, marriages are arranged with good intentions. It is an accepted practice around the world. and all around the world regardless of border or boundary.) (I will not directly discuss child marriage because this essay is supposed to be funny and there is nothing funny about the practice that in 2022 is alive and well in 44 states in the U.S. Think of Kumail Nanjiani in The Big Sick or Nia Vardalos in My Big Fat Greek Wedding.īut in real life, arranged marriage is no joke. Then there’s the comedy of errors when the groom or bride deviates from the chosen path that is meant to make us laugh, to ease the cringing and the uncomfortable moments. Perhaps it shouldn’t be left to the young and inexperienced to figure out for themselves. There are the underlying assumptions that maybe your family does know what’s best for you, that perhaps it’s not just two people getting married but two families and two communities coming together. There is a romantic presumption of happily ever after, of marital bliss. Perhaps it’s not just two people getting married but two families and two communities coming together. Sometimes you’re laughing out of relief: As in “Thank god that isn’t happening to me.” Sometimes you’re laughing in recognition: “Been there, done that!” It’s a laughing matter - as in when you see it on TV or the silver screen, you end up laughing at either the future groom or the bride, or perhaps both, for all of the misunderstandings and all of the foibles. There is still a certain amount of luck involved.įrequently it is a different L-word. As in, you can plan and strategize as much as you want to, you can prepare as if you’re preparing for battle, you can organize and plan for all contingencies. How do you discuss something so intimate and uncomfortable as finding a spouse, without laughing or crying or cringing in embarrassment or fear? How do you talk about it without using the L-word? As in Luck. Sign up for our newsletter to get submission announcements and stay on top of our best work.
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